Sep 24, 2024
To the editor,
Recent postings on social media after the alleged assault on a 16-year-old transgender boy in Dogtown have surfaced some common myths about gender identity. We at the Cape Ann Pride Coalition would like to take this opportunity to provide some basic information.
According to the National Institutes of Health, children as young as 3 can be certain of their gender identity even when it does not align with others’ beliefs about them. NIH is not referring to behavior that defies gender conventions, but rather about a child’s deep and consistent certainty about who they are. Others don’t fully realize they are transgender or nonbinary until they are teens, adults, or elders. There is often a gap between one’s full realization of their identity and when they decide it is safe and/or necessary to express it fully. The sense of a gender identity other than the gender one presents with can result in gender dysphoria, a state of psychological unease and distress.
Parents who affirm their children’s transgender or nonbinary self-expression typically do so with the guidance of medical and mental health professionals. These experts help families navigate a carefully considered process that prioritizes the child’s well-being.
This may include allowing a child to socially transition by using a different name, pronouns, or clothing that matches their gender identity. Studies highlight that adult acceptance and supportive guidance can be life saving. Schools that offer education affirming that diverse gender identities are natural and normal variations in human identity help to reduce bullying and discrimination and empower students with knowledge and empathy. The result is more inclusive and safer communities for all children.
Using the correct pronouns for someone who is trans or nonbinary is a simple yet powerful way to show respect and support. Pronouns are deeply tied to our sense of self, and being referred to with the wrong pronouns — known as misgendering — can be hurtful and invalidating. Research cited by NIH shows that consistent misgendering leads to higher levels of anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges.
Transgender and nonbinary kids, adults, and their families are not joining a trend or seeking attention. They are only trying to live authentically. Let’s strive to be compassionate and respectful to all of our neighbors. We all deserve a community in which everyone feels seen, heard, and valued.
George Grattan and Juanita Van Zyl
on behalf of the Cape Ann Pride Coalition